I seriously need someone to talk to

"No, I don't thank you for the fish at all" (notindetroit)
07/26/2015 at 13:55 • Filed to: None

I’m not saying I’m suicidal but after so many personal failures over this weekend I am starting to wonder if it’s not worth living. I’m just so sick and tired and unhappy and feeling perpetually trapped, and I need to escape.

DISCUSSION (16)

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 13:58

Life is always worth continuing. You only get one and no matter how bad things get, there is always a future ahead of you where things can get better. What sort of treatment are you on at the moment?

Connqr > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 14:25

Think of it this way. If you have it rock bottom, the only way to go is up.

Snuze: Needs another Swede > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 14:41

I’m sorry to hear that things are going so rough for you, it sound’s like you’ve had a shitty weekend. Please, don’t do anything drastic - life is always worth living no matter how bad it seems. Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help, there are a lot of resources out there. And you know all of us here on Oppo have your back.

TheOnelectronic > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:13

Honestly, what I do is think of a movie, or a game, or a car that isn’t out yet, and think to myself “Well, I definitely want to go see _____, so I guess I’ll wait.”

It can keep you going long enough to get some distance and perspective on the things that have got you down.

Conan > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:13

There is always a next step. There is always another chapter... and driving wise, things can always get sorted and better.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:21

Dont know if you still have acess to the Facebook account. But I’m always here. To help and listen. You helped me so much I owe you

bhardoin > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:22

perpetually trapped

I’ll be straight with you, that seriously sounds like depression. You should really consider seeing a professional about this. I know that it can be hard to take that step, but if this battle is an illness there’s really no better way around it. It would be like having a broken arm and not going to the doctor to have it reset.

With that said, we’re here for you whether its to provide you cars and stupid memes to get your mind off things, or to discuss whatever tough times you’re having.

f86sabre > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:29

Hey, you have immense worth. Please don’t let set backs determine your value to yourself and others. Bad times happen, but they aren’t forever.

If you need help, please go out and get it. There are trained folks out there all day everyday. We are here for you, but it sounds like you could use more than what we are able to provide over the Internet. Don’t wait.

Tohru > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:30

Bro, if you need to escape things for awhile my door is always open.

HammerheadFistpunch > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 15:31

We’ve all been to dark places, one thing I can tell you from my own experience as well as from many interviews from people who nearly been too far down that road: don’t trust your thinking in dark places, it has a tendency to spiral from one bad logic set to the next until you think bad choices are good. Trust those that wish you well, they want the best for you. Tldr: it’s too easy to convince yourself of bad things in bad times but just because you’ve convinced yourself doesn’t mean it’s a good or even logical thing. Find help

dsigned001 - O.R.C. hunter > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 16:57

Fellow despondant here: there are a great many famous people who would have been missed had they carried out their thoughts. Lincoln and Churchill among them. Many more are missed because they did carry them out, just like you would be missed.

The feelings are often a function of social isolation ad much as they are of any personal failures. Everybody fails, some fail spectacularly. It’s having people around you that affect the despair.

If you’re willing to engage a higher power, I’d recommend doing some church hopping, if only for the community. Having a group of puerile you’re excited to see at least once a week can be more of a blessing than you might realize.

Frank Grimes > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 19:09

go to your doctor describe what is going on. if you have depression which is what it sounds like he will give you pills and it will help a ton. I speak from personal experience. depression is thought to be caused by a lack of brain chemicals or it is just a temporary condition either way if you are even thinking about suicide and have no desire or intent to do its called rumination tell the doctor this the fact the thoughts are entering your mind is a serious cause for concern. please just trust me and go to the doctor. dont be ashamed tons of people need medications. there is no shame in getting help. also I would reccomend cbt which helps you sort your thoughts and look at things differently. its not wierd. if you delay in going to the doctor it will only prolong your suffering and when you find relief wish you gone sooner

AMGtech - now with more recalls! > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 20:28

Having personally known three people (an aunt, and two boys who were a few years younger than me growing up in the same neighborhood) who’ve made the ultimate decision, as well as a grandfather that made the decision twenty years before I was born but still affects everyone in my family to this day, I can promise you no one wants you to do this. The downs in life only make the ups that much higher. You can and will come out of this a better and stronger person.

Chasaboo > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/26/2015 at 23:04

Best advice I’ve ever gotten was from a professor in college, he said, “No matter how dark you think things are keep your faith, go to sleep and wake up tomorrow and things will always be brighter.” That hasn’t failed me yet.

Stef Schrader > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/27/2015 at 01:19

(((hugs)))

I don’t know what to say, to be honest, because few things ever made it better. Promises that things will get better felt hollow. But there’s always another day, and you have to wake up and crush it. We’re here for you, dude.

x2 on the doctor idea, BTW. It sucks, but they can help sometimes.

orcim > No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
07/27/2015 at 04:54

I’ll second the support others have said, here. I can only add one thought.

You know how it is with you. There’s no mistaking that. You know that whatever patterns/events/etc. are happening to you now are going to continue happening.

You may even also know that your response to those patterns/events/etc. can’t change unless you yourself changes.

The only (pick the best fit: question, advice, thought) I can offer is: what are you gonna do that’s fundamentally different tomorrow that’s going to make a change to what’s happening? If it’s nothing, if you’re gonna spiral in your own thoughts, it will all continue. And frankly, it sounds sucky. I wouldn’t wanna be there (though I have been in the past, and it was *completely* of my own making.)

Find a new friend that is experienced in dealing with such things to talk to (could be a pro, but maybe a Rabbi or Minister, a counselor from school, etc.) See someone about blood chemistry problems? Do a bit of self searching with something that speaks to you (vision quest , Mankind Project, etc.)

The biggest lever you have to change something that’s not right is yourself. That’s where to make the choice to do something different - within yourself. Hard I know...bet you can do it, though.